When you live in victimhood it means that you are on the victim triangle all the time – simply moving from one role to another ….
You're either
persecuting – blaming, attacking and feeling abused. This means you spend most of your time feeling mistreated.
rescuing – fixing, controlling and self sacrificing. This leaves you feeling unappreciated.
Or you're in victim – impotent, incapable, helpless and feeling largely undeserving of anything better.
The first step is noticing it.